This song was on the great Damn the Torpedos album that was Petty’s breakthrough album. Petty wrote this after his first group Mudcrutch moved from Florida to Los Angeles in 1974.
Tom Petty was going to give the song to The J. Geils Band because he thought it had their sound. (Petty and the Heartbreakers had opened for the J. Geils Band on tour). However, J. Geils turned him down as they were already deep in the mixing process for their album and producer Jimmy Iovine persuaded Petty and his bandmates to record it themselves.
They were glad as it became the group’s first Top 10 hit.
The song peaked at #10 in Billboard 100, #3 in Canada, and #17 in New Zealand in 1977.
The album had 4 known radio songs on the album. Damn the Torpedos peaked at #2 in the Billboard 100, #2 in Canada, and #57 in the UK in 1980.
Peter Wolf of the J Geils Band: It was in the midst of stuff. Maybe we thought we had the songs for our album: “We can do it for the next one.” I called up Jimmy and, I think, Tom and said, “Love the song. I’m not sure we’re gonna get to it. But I do like the song.” Tom wasn’t sure of it for himself for some reason. It was almost like, “As soon as I finished writing it, I thought of sending it to you.”
I always heard it as having a Lennon-esque quality, especially in the bridge – just the way Tom puts the edge on his voice. There is also a Dylan-esque quality [in the lyrics]: “Well, you’re gonna get yours. In the public eye, you’re gonna humiliate me? Baby, your time is gonna come.” That was a theme in Lennon’s work too – [the Beatles’] “No Reply.” But the way Tom recorded it, it just became so Tom. I always felt, “Man, I wish we’d jumped on it sooner.”
It’s funny – it came up in our last conversation. Tom and I were together in his dressing room in Philadelphia last July. I said, “Tom, I gotta tell you, ‘Don’t Do Me Like That’ …” And he goes, “Oh, yeah! Whatever happened?” I explained the whole thing – we were in the mix process or something. And he said, “I gotta thank you for that. When you didn’t end up doing it, everybody talked me into putting it on the record. And it became one of my big, big hits.”
From Songfacts
The song finds him warning (or at least asking) a girl not to dump him, as he has a friend who recently had his heart broken. Not one of the group’s more meaningful songs, Creem magazine called it a “throwaway romp.”
Many listeners enjoyed this romp, making it one of Petty’s most popular songs.
When Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers made their first appearance as musical guests on Saturday Night Live November 10, 1979, they played “Refugee” and “Don’t Do Me Like That.”
Don’t Do Me Like That
I was talking with a friend of mine
Said a woman had hurt his pride
Told him that she loved him so
And turned around and let him go
Then he said, you better watch your step
Or your gonna get hurt yourself
Someone’s gonna tell you lies
Cut you down to size
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
What if I love you baby?
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
Someday I might need you baby
Don’t do me like that
Listen honey, can you see?
Baby, you would bury me
If you were in the public eye
Givin’ someone else a try
And you know you better watch your step
Or you’re gonna get hurt yourself
Someone’s gonna tell you lies
Cut you down to size
Don ‘t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
What if I love you baby?
Don’t, don’t, don’t, don’t
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
What if I need you baby?
Don’t do me like that
‘Cause somewhere deep down inside
Someone is saying, Love doesn’t last that long
I got this feelin’ inside night and day
And now I can’t take it no more
Listen honey, can you see?
Baby, you would bury me
If you were in the public eye
Givin’ someone else a try
And you know you better watch your step
Or you’re gonna get hurt yourself
Someone’s gonna tell you lies
Cut you down to size
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
What if I love you baby?
Don’t, don’t, don’t, don’t
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
I just might need you honey
Don’t do me like that
Wait
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
Baby, baby, baby
Don’t, don’t, don’t
No
Don’t do me like that
Don’t do me like that
Baby, baby, baby
Oh, oh, oh, oh
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Didn’t know that- I can hear J. Geils Band doing that song…
Same with me…but yea I could hear Peter Wolf singing that.
Great Petty tune
Strongest song on “Damn The Torpedos” next to “Refugee” and “Here Comes My Girl”.
Tom Petty is awesome!
I couldn’t agree more!
I like the live video.
I figured that.
Don’t do me like that is a nice phrase- rolls off the tongue.
It does…and it would have fit J. Geils really well.
excellent tune…J Geils might have done well with it, I could quite imagine it fitting in the ‘Love Stinks’ album, but Petty’s own take would be hard to top.
I knew nothing of the J. Geils deal… it would have fit them well. Yes Petty did great.
This would rank among my top five favorite Tom Petty songs.
What a killer track. Love Lynch’s roller tight drumming at the start with that paint. Ear Candy at its finest.
It sure is man… it’s as tight as it comes… btw I’m going to give Dave the link to Mike’s site…Nationwide dude!
Awesome Max. Mike will appreciate it for sure.
Love that tune, Max. Damn the Torpedoes probably is also my favorite Tom Petty album.
You know it would have went well with J. Geils also…I would have loved to hear their version but I’m happy that Petty kept it.
Yea that very well could be their best
I’ve always really dug Refugee big time. Every time I hear that song, sooner or later, I start singing along – or perhaps I should better say I try singing along! 🙂
Tom really was on top of his game during this time…this one, Hard Promises, Long After Dark, Southern Accents… then in the 90s he changed a little and continued.
I got Southern Accents on CD at the time it came out – another great album! I also really like Pack Up the Plantation: Live!
It’s still hard to believe Tom is no longer around!
I know…that really shocked me when he died. I saw him once in 92 and my son and I talked about seeing him on that last tour but it was a bad time…we were going to catch him next time…
Ah, man. The last time I saw him was in Sep 2014 in NJ during the Hypnotic Eye tour.
The only other time I had seen him before was Germany in the late ’80s when he shared the bill with Bob Dylan, with Roger McGuinn as opening act. Dylan was bitterly disappointing, but Petty and McGuinn pretty much saved the night!
I wish I would have seen Tom during his 40th anniversary tour in 2017. I had a bunch of other shows I caught that year, including U2, John Mellencamp and Taj Mahal & Keb Mo and Deep Purple.
While it’s impossible to see everybody, in retrospect skipping Tom was a big mistake. Like you I thought I’d simply catch him another time. Who would ever have thought he’d pass away at age 66!
Man you saw one of my favorite guitar players…Roger McGuinn…I saw him once in the late eighties with him and just an acoustic.
I do wish we would have made the time to see Tom also in that last tour. Yea him passing away was the last thing I thought of…like it always is.
I love Petty. And you know, I think J. Geils Band would’ve killed that song. It does sound like them.
Great tune. Cool bit on Geils. I can hear them doing this one.
It would fit with J. Geils great…I’m happy he did it but would have loved to here J Geils back then give it a shot.
TP’s version cooks.
I’ll be over within a couple of days CB.
Come on over Max. I’ll fire up the BBQ.
Oh, yeah. This good Petty/Heartbreakers.
J.Geils Band? I’m having trouble wrapping my head around that.
Good rockin tune.
Wow, never thought of J. Geils Band doing this one but it makes sense. Like when I learned that Bill Joel wrote Big Shot for Mick Jagger, but liked it too much to give it to him.
I’m glad Tom ended up doing this!
That took me by surprise but I could hear Wolf singing this.
I didn’t know about the Billy Joel song! That is wild.
Springsteen wrote Fire for Elvis.
That makes sense too!